JUS SAYIN

8-20-10
Today, The View was appalling. I think only Joy made any sense. Not to jinx her, but she often is the most rational, not to mention humorous, on the show. The subject was Mel’s ex, Oksana. Less was said about his ranting than about her taping his ranting. I could only watch them trying to mutilate her for a little while before turning it off, so maybe they mellowed eventually, but the gist of it was that “she sounded scripted”. Duh. Put yourself in her place: you’ve been assaulted repeatedly; who is going to believe you when they can believe the honorable Mad Mel? What better way to prove it than to get him on tape? So, while he is screaming obscenities, threatening to burn the house down, presumably with you and his own child in it, you realize you have to compose yourself long enough to get his words down. Be still my still beating heart. You might even put a list of the points by the phone, so that when your heart leaps into your mouth because the man you thought you loved wants to put you through a meat grinder calls, you can still have the presence of mind to do what must be done. What other defense did she have? I think eventually the police were called, but as a child of domestic violence myself, I can assure you, that CALLING THE POLICE IS NO GUARANTEE OF HELP, often pissing off the offender more and alerting him to your serious intention. For the women of the View to presume, or assert otherwise is disingenuous at best and downright ignorance at worst. To see how easily people, including police can be duped one need look no further than Whoopi. Most made the point of saying to the effect that, ‘we aren’t taking Mel’s side, but , , ,”. No, of course not; impugning the reputation, motives, agenda etc. of a brutalized wife by no means implies that Mel might have a case for say, killing her. Yes, the police must be notified, but in the midst of such a vile situation, maybe getting your own proof together might take priority, before Mel learns that he can’t lie his way out of it. Oksana might not be a virgin, or the nicest kid on the block, but she survived. I don’t think they ever invited her on the show did they? Wouldn’t that be where a strong woman would shine? I have been a victim of ‘foot in mouth’ disease so many times, that I really shouldn’t rant when others also open mouth insert foot. But I hope the women of the View and especially Whoopi, who has so many fine qualities going for her, come to their senses about this. In fact, given the special relationship Whoopi has stated she has with Mel, she should probably just recuse herself from any discussion regarding him.